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  • 枫下茶话 / 社会 / 多伦多华人移民杀害亲生女儿的人间惨剧分析
    本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛最近,全加拿大的华人移民都听说了多伦多一个华人新移民家庭父亲因生活压力太大精神崩溃而杀害亲生女儿的人间惨剧。。。

    我们不妨换个角度来分析这个问题:假如他们一家选择定居的第一个加拿大城市不是多伦多而是蒙特利尔,其悲剧是否还会发生呢?!

    我个人认为:象他们这种情况,落地后到蒙特利尔定居,至少头8个月可以拿钱喝“咖啡”,衣食无忧;这样刚到新环境的心情会比较愉快,不至于才半年多就因无法适应而心理崩溃,时间长了慢慢也就习惯了。而且,8个月的“咖啡”喝完后,夫妻中一个人甚至两个人可以去上当地的英文大学,再申请到贷款、资助,也就同找了一份正式工作差不多,而上学,不正是这位硕士先生最不惧怕的吗?

    再说,蒙特利尔的生活费用尤其是房租比多伦多低一半,即使最后无法适应双语环境,8个月喝“咖啡”也不会有什么损失,给一家人打下点法语基础在加拿大绝不是无用功;何况蒙特利尔的华人比多伦多少得多,而蒙特利尔的环境又最象欧洲,在多伦多心情很坏的这位悲剧主角,没准在蒙特利尔会把自己自卑、紧张,充满挫折感的心情舒缓下来。

    环境急剧变化后,是否能很快让自己的心理适应新环境,将在很大程度上影响自己今后几年对这个新环境的感受和心情,影响自己在这个新环境的自信和个人能力发挥。所以新移民刚到加拿大的头半年除了努力奋斗外,也需要想办法让自己心情保持愉快,要让自己在保持基本生活水准的同时有享受新环境、新文化的机会。假如手头资金确实不太宽裕,那么除非对自己找工作的本事特自信,否则在选择定居城市时就应当考虑其消费水平和生活压力----假如在多伦多这种城市头一年只能干体力活的话,还真不如到一个生活费用少得多、环境好得多的城市去什么都不干学半年语言、轻松享受加拿大半年,顺便学学怎么找工作;半年后即使再回多伦多混饭吃,心情、自信甚至本事也绝对会好过干了一年体力活的新移民,至少绝对不会后悔来加拿大。

    还是回到题头,那位可怜的小女孩已经永远在她的父亲手里死去了,一个本来可能在新世界找到幸福的家庭就此化为乌有。。。而这一切,也许错误在他们选择多伦多时就已经铸成,他们一家今天本来可能还在蒙特利尔的某个街道散步流连,虽然已经开始感受到新生活的压力但却远不至于耗尽心灵和物资的储备。。。蒙特利尔也许是一处可以让不少刚驶入加国海洋的无助心灵暂时避风的港湾,可惜的是很多人却把避风等同于逃避终于只能无奈地返航甚至沉没。。。今天我们已再不能帮助他们,我们只能共同地祈祷:愿上帝保佑死去女孩的灵魂和年轻母亲破碎的心,愿上帝驱赶走那位可怜父亲心中的撒旦恶魔。更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
    • FAINT.
      • 好文章!但我想知道,我去了多伦多以后,是否可以随时去蒙特利尔?而且我不懂法语。
        • You may go to Montreal freely after your landing.
      • 请问在蒙特利尔生活对于上小学的儿童来说有什么问题吗?据说,他们必须学法语而不是英语,是吗?
        • They are all binlingual later! English and French, isn't it great?
        • you can find private English school.
      • 能否详细介绍一下蒙市对待新移民的政策,比如是否必须学习法语,孩子入学是否也必须学习法语,谢谢!
    • 把蒙市说得跟天堂一样.偶几乎要考虑去蒙市了.呵呵
      • Montreal is that good? I doubt it. French should not be a big issue if you want to live that. I know a few people living there over decades, have no idea of French
        • Montreal is definitely not bad. Don't forget it was 1st largest and now 2nd largest city in Canada.
    • I almost dream of Montreal now. I know M is a culture city, while toronto is just a commercial city. M has lower life standard, but keep in mind, less job opportunities. I know many natives moving fr M to T to find jobs. That's true. ^_^?
      • I think both M and T are 'culture and commercial' cities. But T looks more energetic with multi-culture, while M looks more unique with more French favor. If you take a look at Canadian manufacturing industry,
        you can see Bombardier, CanadAir, CAE, and much more still have their major plants in Quebec.
      • I think M is better for me cause I focus on U. study other than job opportunity. But how to improve my English there? Lots of E. traning course here in T, all free. Is it alo available in M?
    • But I heard that Quebec had cut its bugget on New immgrant whose landing place is not Quebec on the form. Is that right?
    • 误导!蒙特利尔现在生活指数越来越高,接近多伦多了!