小孩读高中时,时不时就会提起一些话题。每次我都勇敢地和她辩论了。印象中辩得比较深入的有这些:political correctness, being judgemental, and LGBT.
总体上,小孩从学校带回来的观点是很左的 (thanks to the Canadian educational system),她从来没有提起一个偏右的。那些观点要么是老师灌输的,要么是从同学听来的。
记得她和我说起一个事,我评论了一下。她说我是judgemental. 我说,yes, there is nothing wrong to be judgemental. We do need to have our own judgement. We do need to know what's right and what's wrong. Otherwise we would do something very bad, or allow something very bad happening on us.
每次辩论之后小孩从来没有承认输的。但是很显然这些辩论起了很大作用。上大学之后,她会跟我说起她的roommates多么的naively left.
作为家长,关心社会时事很重要。能够准确地用英语表达观点更重要。我自己从来没有用中文和小孩讨论过社会问题,都是用的英语。和小孩斗智斗勇的过程也是我自己提高英语能力的过程。和各位家长共勉。
现在小孩已经走上社会了。是一个货真价实的小右派, also a supporter of the People's Party。😁
What are the signs that you are judgemental? Ask yourself these questions.
In other words, are you a glass half empty or glass half full kind of person? People with negative outlooks are more likely to see other people in a negative light. They focus first on their faults and struggle to see their good qualities, if at all. Here’s a good test to see if you’re negative or positive. Once you recognize the negativity in yourself, you can take steps to shift to a more positive outlook with meditation, affirmations, journaling and soliciting feedback from others.
5. Do you feel the need to show others how powerful you are?