嗯，你家乖乖女可能很快从大学毕业，可什么时候能从你这个家毕业呢？看上去像是在帮她渡难关，实际上又一次助长了她对父母和家庭的依赖。Say no next time then she would have to figure it out herself. Life cannot go on like this forever, correct?
-thornthorn($oOHoly MolyOo$);
2011-11-12(#7063401@0)
I know... but as parents, it's hard to say no to our beloved kids, whenever or whatever, no matter how old they are.
-gennia(gennia);
2011-11-12(#7063487@0)
That’s true yet it really depends. Help them become more independent rather than dependent is beneficial for their lifetime.
-thornthorn($oOHoly MolyOo$);
2011-11-12(#7063502@0)
Thank you, you are absolutely right. I'll try.
-gennia(gennia);
2011-11-12(#7063534@0)
Understood. One thing that impresses me about Chinese is the way many parents obey their children.
-thornthorn($oOHoly MolyOo$);
2011-11-12(#7063816@0)
that's called 孝子.
-muguangduanqian(7788);
2011-11-12(#7063833@0)
Yes, we are, for our kids and parents.
-gennia(gennia);
2011-11-12(#7063843@0)
Having children is fun, but children have to grow up into people eventually. If they are protected too much or unnecessarily spoiled then they may hate you later on. You unintentionally jeopardise their lives in some way.
-thornthorn($oOHoly MolyOo$);
2011-11-12(#7063847@0)
The secret of dealing successfully with your children is not to be their parent at certain stage. Let them fail when they have to then they will be fine afterwards. Or they will be always expecting your help.
-thornthorn($oOHoly MolyOo$);
2011-11-12(#7063859@0)
Well if you think this is the right way then keep it up. Your daughter may not eventually do well at school or at work. You cannot write an exam nor can you do a job interview for her.
-thornthorn($oOHoly MolyOo$);
2011-11-12(#7063936@0)
If really it’s the case then she would be your coach not the other way around. The danger here is you don’t see the pitfall or the implication of your way of parenting. When your daughter gets no help from you would she fail or succeed?
-thornthorn($oOHoly MolyOo$);
2011-11-12(#7064149@0)
我也是恨她的last minute，但她的功课怎么就那么多呢？我没有在北美读过书，不了解情况。但女儿的功课真的是多，5门课，assignment/project/mid-term test一个接一个，每天功课都要做到凌晨，要到last minute才能完成。我相信女儿是一个自律的好学生，要不然她也上不到这么好的学校，不知道，我真的不知道。。。不过，象昨晚这样，only 15 minutes left 却也实在难以想象。我真希望她能早点把功课做完，早点睡觉，睡眠不足，长此以往，怎么得了。
-gennia(gennia);
2011-11-12{363}(#7063904@0)
The answer may be that she has been getting too much help from her parents. Believe it or not her inability to perform university studies has been ruined somewhat by the way you and your husband raise her.
-thornthorn($oOHoly MolyOo$);
2011-11-12(#7063915@0)
聪明又贪玩的孩子都是Last Minutes的。
-lifeisgoodd(life is fun);
2011-11-12(#7064259@0)
只是一般不用找父母。
-nww(西北偏西);
2011-11-12(#7064269@0)
Without parents' help of course. If her daughter is really a smart girl parents tutoring should be off the menu. Man-made gift is not real gift that fails anytime if the support is gone.
-thornthorn($oOHoly MolyOo$);
2011-11-12(#7064272@0)
没那么严重吧。虽然，我不管孩子的功课，但是如果哪天她有问题来问我，我不会因此觉得孩子的能力有问题或者是loser什么的。
-lifeisgoodd(life is fun);
2011-11-12(#7064316@0)
You did not ge the point.
-nww(西北偏西);
2011-11-12(#7064293@0)
She may or will never get it.
-thornthorn($oOHoly MolyOo$);
2011-11-12(#7064303@0)
Seriously. I did an econ minor in U of Waterloo. Took 10 econ courses all the way upto the 3rd year. By relative comparison, Econ is an easier discipline in the University. If she requires your helps, that is a bit concerning.
-jeffrey815(Smartiecat);
2011-11-12(#7064313@0)
She might be implying Commerce. If so her daughter may not make it to last year.
-thornthorn($oOHoly MolyOo$);
2011-11-12(#7064321@0)